"Your moving fast, Don't get attached, I think you're hot but I love you not..."


I had an interesting conversation last night with Mr. Will Smith and we happened upon the subject of marriage, more so the issue of people getting married in their late teens/ early twenties. I don’t know if it makes my cynical, bitter or whatever but I just can’t understand people committing to a life together when their own has barely begun. Now let me say that I’m not against the idea of marriage and I do hope one day (although some days I have my doubts) that I will get married too. I also support the idea of long term relationships, in fact I hope to find myself in one of those one day as well. But I can’t understand the reason for the rush to the altar. If you’re in a committed relationship, perhaps living together and you’ve made the conscious decision to move forward in a life together, why not give that life a chance before you promise to spend the rest of your life with said person? I understand some people decide to get married young because of certain beliefs, perhaps their religion dictates no sex before marriage or as Will said some cultures like the Dutch are very traditional and believe that marriage is actually quite sacred. And in a way I agree, I think it is sacred and that’s why I think waiting is so important. Too often to people wind up divorced these days, I believe the statistic falls somewhere in the 1 in 3 range if Bridget Jones’s Diary gives accurate stats (and I’m sure it does, love that movie). Love is such a fickle thing in the sense that we seem to lost all rationality and believe in crazy terms like forever and always. Of course that’s the exact kind irrationality we crave, but how do we balance the irrational feelings of love with the responsible, good sense not to jump the gun?