The subject of casual sex, on a basic level, seems to be a fantastic idea: sex whenever you want, with a non-committal partner. But when further delving into this issue, it can present to be more complex. What if one party develops feelings for the other and ends up getting hurt? How can you have sex and its other wonderful lead ups with someone whom you do not have feelings of at least care, minor
affection for? Are some people like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman when she utters the line (I’m paraphrasing here) “When I’m with a guy, I just do it.” And furthermore, to look at sex in that sort of way, is it even enjoyable? I guess we’re not looking at it from a prostitute perspective, so moving on. Is it possible to sleep with someone and feel nothing at all? It may seem obvious that the solution would be to be in a relationship. However, that is not a simple answer in itself for many reasons. Many broken hearted, pride protective people would rather hold on to their hearts without the horrible break up after effects. With this in mind, is there possibly a way to have casual sex mean something, without it meaning everything?
2 comments:
i suppose if you only did it a very few times with a person then moved on you might be able to avoid developing any feelings for them. if you did this with a number of people then you might have found a successful way, at the risk of being called a slut.
jeff's point about promiscuity is an important one; utmost secrecy would probably have to be employed so as to avoid further social complications within cirlces. the idea of casual sexual relationships is, in theory, very possible - however, i should think that for it to actually work, and even work OUT, both individuals would have to have the same perspectives on the issue, and share an absolute understanding of the 'arrangement', as it were.
...which, of course, never happens.
something always goes awry, as things always change and nothing stays the same forever. that being said, i think it could work for an undetermined, yet finite (and probably short) period of time. after that though, who can say? i'd imagine all forms of awkwardness would ensue.
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